Why I never married? At 64, people still ask — and I finally have an honest answer on being single.
I’ve spent most of my life single. And for a long time, I thought that meant something was missing in me because of my relationship status. That I’d missed my chance. That by being a single woman I’d somehow failed at the one thing I was told women are supposed to do — marry.
But here’s what I’ve learned after all these years of living alone, of building a life on my own terms at Black Bear Cottage: being single after 60 isn’t a void waiting to be filled. It’s a life. A full, meaningful, chosen one.
In this video, I answer the question I’ve been asked more than any other — “Why aren’t you married?” — and I share the honest truth I wish someone had told me years ago.
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💛 If this speaks to you, I’d love to hear from you in the comments. You’re not alone — and you never were.
Watch next:
▶️ I Never Married — the story of how I got here
⏱️ Chapters:
0:00 The question I’m asked most at 64
1:15 The real concerns of living alone
2:45 The reunion comment we’ve all heard
4:20 Who should be in charge of your life?
5:00 A verse for the lonely days
6:30 The mantra that carries me
8:30 Why I’ve never been happier
10:20 A final word + Thursday’s video
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Thank you so much for being here. God bless you — and I’ll see you next Thursday. 💛
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